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Turning 21

Sorry it has been awhile since I have posted anything. It seems like I have been so busy lately.  But I am finally settled into the new house and Mason is at his dad's for the weekend so I have some time to write (actually type).

I turned 21 not too long ago, which to a lot of people is a milestone birthday.  You see so many people post about how "I've finally made it" or something about their horizontal drivers license.  When I turned 21 I didn't feel that way.  Everyone kept asking me if I was excited to turn 21, and honestly I wasn't that excited at all.  All of my friends were more excited than I was.  I already felt like I was 28 so turning 21 wasn't a big deal to me at all.  I have so much responsibility in my life that being able to go to a bar and drink isn't the highlight of my life.  I completely skipped that stage of my life and I don't think there is any going back.  The highlight of my life is getting to spend time with Mason and watch him grow up.  I couldn't do that if I was at the bar all the time.

Honestly my biggest care on my birthday was if I was going to be able to talk to Mason.  I could have cared less about going out and drinking, the only thing I wanted for my birthday was to hear my baby boy's voice.  I waited all day to get a call but I never did.  I was really hoping that I would be pleasantly surprised that his dad would have him call me for my birthday.  I knew if I didn't talk to him it would ruin my whole night so finally by around 8 I decided to call and see if I could talk to Mason.  Garrett wasn't with Mason but he said he would have him call me once he was with Mason again.  An hour went by and I thought I was never going to get a call.  I had started to give up hope but finally my phone rang.  That 60 second conversation with Mason meant more to me than anything on my birthday.  When you have a kid all of your priorities change.  When others just want to go and get drunk on their 21st all I cared about was hearing "I love you mommy" from my son. It's the small things that truly matter.

Being 21 really hasn't changed a lot for me.  Besides its another year that I want to fill with accomplishments.  I started out with a big one by buying a house!  I will have to share pictures one of these days.  The other day I read a post somewhere that said "I will know I have made it once I have a family, own a car, and a house."  If I were to go by that post I guess you could say that I have made it, but I would say thats a pretty short life if I was to stop accomplishing at age 21.  I feel there is so much bettering of myself that I can/want to do.  Just because I have finally bought a house doesn't mean I am stopping here.  I have so many more goals for myself and I have so much drive that once I have reached one of my goals it doesn't mean that I am done.  It makes me so sad and almost angry when I see people with no drive.  I think you should always want to push and better yourself.  I see people that have so much potential but they decide they are okay with where they are at in life and they just decide to settle.  So today I hope you set a goal for yourself and don't stop until you have reached it.  Once you have reached it don't stop there, make another goal.  I hope everyone has a great weekend!

xoxo

Kylie

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