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The Night that Subway Changed My Perspective on Life

A year ago I was living in Norfolk with Mason going to college and lately I have been having all of these memories popping into my head of the time we had spent there.  Tonight one of those memories really hit me hard.  It was a Tuesday night and I had gotten out of my night class a little early, so I decided to run to Target and pick up some diapers before I picked up Mason from the babysitter.  I was in such good spirits that night since I had gotten out of class early, and I was able to go to the store by myself without having to drag Mason in and out of the cold.  Unfortunately my spirits had taken a 180 degree turn after I had checked out.  I had spent $90 on just diapers and wipes alone and the child support I was receiving from Mason's father barely covered half of that.  Mason's child support had recently been cut drastically so the issue was very fresh.  I had moved to Norfolk expecting to receive more since Mason's living expenses had increased from moving to a city and an additional daycare expense that I have never had before.  Instead his financial support was cut more than half.  I was almost in tears by the time I had made it to the car.  I pulled myself together and decided to grab Subway for supper since it was in the mall right next to Target.  I walked in to get mine and Mason's usual 6" chicken bacon ranch sandwich on italian herbs and cheese bread.  Mason and I split a 6" sandwich regularly, because that is what a poor single mother college student does if they want to splurge and go out to eat.  When I walked up to the counter at Subway to order someone greeted me as if they knew me.  When I looked up my heart dropped and I could barely get out a hello.  It was one of the daycare workers from Mason's daycare.  I had just seen her earlier that afternoon when I had picked Mason up from daycare.  She was working a second job instead of being able to be at home spending time with her kids.  That night I ended up walking to my car in tears for the second time.  I realized how blessed and lucky I was to be able to support Mason and myself on my own while going to school to get an education with out having to work two jobs.  I was so thankful that I had the amount of time I did to spend with Mason even if I did have night classes and he was gone every other weekend.  That night really changed my perspective on things.  Even though I was a 19 year old single mother, going to college full time, living 2.5 hours away from any family, and going through a custody battle, I realized I had it so great. This memory put me in tears again tonight.  Mostly because I hope that Mason's daycare worker no longer is having to work a second job.  I hope that she is able to spend more time with her family because that is what she deserves.  She was always so sweet and always had a smile on her face.  I am so thankful for her taking such great care of Mason while he was at daycare. I will always be thankful.  I will never forget that night.

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