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The Question I Have Been Avoiding

I have been avoiding blogging about this topic for awhile but I have been getting asked this a lot.  "How do you deal with your baby daddy's girlfriend around your child?"  I feel like I am in no way an expert on this subject.  I am not going to give any details on my personal experiences, because I am sure the other parties would not appreciate it.  But I can give you my opinion and answer it to the best of my ability.  You first have to realize that it is a two way street.  If you want to date other people they can too.  Also if you can bring your significant other around your child then they can too, unless in some way it is not safe or healthy for your child to be around them.  

Also people have made the comment to me that they get jealous of the girlfriend being around their child.  In my opinion you shouldn't feel that way at all.  I am Mason's mom and no one can come close to that.  Being a single mom I think Mason and I have a different relationship than most mothers and sons.  It has always just been me and him taking on the world together.  Because of that I feel we have a closer bond. He is super protective of me and is always trying to take care of me.  No one can come close to what we have so I am not concerned about someone taking my place.  The girlfriend will probably find a place in your child's heart but it is not the same as your spot in their heart.  I do hope that one day Garrett can find a permanent someone to take care of Mason when I am not around.  I hope that she will be a good role model for Mason.  Obviously I have no say in who he marries but I pray for Mason's sake that she is a good one.

Honestly one of my biggest fears in life is dying and leaving Mason here without me.  That's why I pray everyday that Garrett can find someone that makes him and Mason both happy and that can take care of my baby boy the way he deserves to be taken care of.

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