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Friendship Struggles

When I found out I was pregnant I learned pretty quickly that I would no longer be able to relate to my friends.  While my friends' biggest worries were about what they were going to do Friday night and what dress they were going to wear to prom, I was more concerned with being able to graduate high school, raise a healthy baby, and somehow make it on my own.  I realized that I wasn't going to be able to relate to anyone in high school.  I was pretty alone in my situation but I was happy with that because I didn't want anyone else to be going through what I was going through.  I had some great friends who supported me throughout my journey.  That made me feel a little less alone, but when you are 17 and having to figure out how to raise a baby on your own, it doesn't take the stress off of you.  As the years have gone on since Mason was born it has gotten even harder to stay connected and relate to my friends.  Our lives are totally different and our worries are in no way the same.  None of my friends have had to pay thousands of dollars in court and attorney fees while trying to pay for school, daycare, and rent.  None of them had to stay home and do online college.  None of them have the responsibilities that I have, yet that is not their fault.  That is a good thing.  I am so happy for them getting to go out and be kids.  These are the best years of their lives and I pray that they are enjoying every second of it, because they have no idea how good they have it.  That doesn't mean that I am not happy with my life.  My priorities are just different.  Everyday I am so thankful that I get to spend it with my son.  I am thankful I was able to graduate college even if I didn't get to do it like everyone else. I am thankful that I have been able to pay for so many things on my own.  I am grateful that I have a full time job and that Mason and I have our own place to call home.  I think all of those things are something to be pretty happy about.  Mason and I are in such a great place in life and everyday I am so thankful.



A big thank you to these girls that got me through a very tough time!


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